This week’s parasha,
Parashat Yitro, presents the reuniting of Moshe Rabbenu and his father-in-law,
Yitro – the namesake of our parasha.
The Torah records that at the beginning of their encounter, Yitro says to Moshe, “I am your father-in-law, Yitro, who is coming to you and your wife and your two sons with her.” Rabbenu Ovadia Seforno, and a number of our commentators, are troubled by the inclusion of this statement. What does it add?
To answer this question, Seforno makes recourse to a teaching of our Chachamim in Masechet Pesachim 112a – do not enter your home suddenly, all the more so, the house of your friend. Using this dictum, Seforno explains that Yitro was attempting to give Moshe advance warning so that Moshe could have adequate time to make appropriate preparations for Yitro’s lodging. Yitro was concerned about Moshe’s interests and concerns – his announcement is a testament to his high ethical standing.
The Torah records that at the beginning of their encounter, Yitro says to Moshe, “I am your father-in-law, Yitro, who is coming to you and your wife and your two sons with her.” Rabbenu Ovadia Seforno, and a number of our commentators, are troubled by the inclusion of this statement. What does it add?
To answer this question, Seforno makes recourse to a teaching of our Chachamim in Masechet Pesachim 112a – do not enter your home suddenly, all the more so, the house of your friend. Using this dictum, Seforno explains that Yitro was attempting to give Moshe advance warning so that Moshe could have adequate time to make appropriate preparations for Yitro’s lodging. Yitro was concerned about Moshe’s interests and concerns – his announcement is a testament to his high ethical standing.
A more expanded
version of this Rabbinic dictum is recorded in the fifth chapter of Masechet
Derech Eretz:
A person should never
leave the company of his teacher or friend unless he excuses himself and is
granted permission. Learn derech eretz from Hashem Who (so to
speak) asked permission before leaving the company of
Avraham. (Furthermore,) a person should not suddenly enter his friend’s house.
Learn derech eretz from Hashem Who (so to speak), after Adam’s sin of
the tree of knowledge, stood at the entrance of the Garden of Eden and called
to Adam, ‘Where are you?’
What is derech
eretz?
On the most basic
level, derech eretz means “the way of the world” – human protocol. It
is basic protocol to not leave the company of your friend without saying
goodbye. It is basic protocol to refrain from barging in on someone’s house.
However, in Masechet Berachot 35b, derech eretz is also used in
another sense – earning a living. What is the unifying feature of protocols and
earning a living?
Perhaps we can suggest
that derech eretz refers to a human being’s basic psychological needs
– the needs with which we are all hard-wired. We have a need for social harmony
(saying goodbye), privacy (announcing one’s arrival) and independence (making a
living). The Rabbis teach that we are obligated to promote social harmony – not
just from our own framework but equally from the framework of those around us.
We are obligated to respect each other’s privacy – because that is a basic
human need. The Torah promotes making a living – dependency is taxing.
Our Rabbis teach that while it is
natural to be protective and vigilant about our own needs, we must be equally
sensitive to the basic psychological needs of everyone around us – we must
strive to treat each other with derech eretz. By acting with derech eretz,
we teach ourselves to think about the other and to be empathetic to those
around us. By acting with derech eretz, we help build a compassionate
community.
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